Nurturing Creativity

Elizabeth Gilbert. She rocks. I hope she always keeps writing. I hope she always lets the magic fairies that live in her walls sneeze their fairy snot all over her.

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Easy times

What if life could be easy? No struggle. Just… Ease. Imagine if that was true. What if everything was just so incredibly easy? What a shift of thought. A huge break from bragging about how busy we are or how much we have yet to do.

Perhaps we make everything harder than it needs to be, just by thinking it has to be difficult. Suffering is a mental condition, not an external event. Could we just choose not to suffer? If we control our thoughts, then all that is stopping us is habit, mental habits. Habitual thoughts that drag us down and look for things going wrong, instead of right.

Maybe, stop. Ask the question –
How could I do this the easy way? Can I be easy about this? Could this be what changes everything?

Weeding out the memes

It is funny how some memes can creep up on you. The current one I am weeding out is “You can’t make money doing what you love.” It became clear to me how ridiculous this idea is when my friend and I each could see the endless opportunities for making a good living from the other person’s dream career. The only shift required is one of perception.

This old meme is closely linked to “There is no money in it.” and “Work isn’t supposed to be fun.” It is relatively easy to tear these ideas down with logic, but the tricky part is to integrate the new ideas into the subconscious mind.

Changing a meme is something I have done before with self-esteem, I changed my thoughts about myself from negative to positive. It makes sense to me that the same process could work for any idea that needs changing. Here are some ideas to bust apart those memes.

1. Believe it is possible. Our minds like doing easy things. If we believe a task is difficult or impossible, then we give up before we have a chance to start.

2. Use affirmations. Repetition worked to get the meme into your mind, it can work to get them out. Choose affirmations that are stated in the positive and the present tense, like “There are many people who are looking for my services. I am in demand and I make good money doing what I love to do.”

3. Go general. If you get stuck in the downward spiral of negative thoughts, get general in your thoughts, rather than specific. Try “I’ve figured out things like this before. If one other person can live their dreams it means it is possible. In time I will figure it all out.”

4. Dare to be different. Leaving behind an idea that doesn’t serve you is a bit like standing out in the crowd. It can be unsettling to be singled out as being different, but all you have to ask yourself is “Is the discomfort of staying where I am worse than the fear of living my dreams?”

5. Take action. Take small little steps everyday toward what you want in your life. Those small actions should never be discounted, every drop makes the ocean.

Look at me! – Hide!

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A dear friend of mine and I had a great conversation about fear today. Writing daily has been a great challenge for me, but I have now reached a place where I show up to the page (or the screen), no matter what, every single day. That is something that I am quite proud of, my willingness to show up. It was the first step in breaking through my writing shell to share my thoughts/wisdom/musings with the world. (yay me!)

Now for phase two. My ego/editor/inner critic has discovered that people are actually reading this stuff. Three things happened that scared me back into my writing cave: I got nominated for a blogging award, someone found my blog by googling my name, and I got a phony twitter message saying to check out a (scam)website to see what people were saying about me (I didn’t click through, but the message assured me it was nasty). The fear of being exposed reared it’s head.

You see I have a nice mainstream job where (I feel that) most of the things I write about here (or want to write about but don’t) would be ridiculed (maybe). I have been delaying posting about crystal therapy, reiki, reflexology and a bunch of other subjects because of this irrational fear of other people’s opinions. I have been thinking about posting some articles to Ezine Articles but the increased readership that would go with it scares the pants off me.

So there is this twin pull on my creative centre, one way is a strong craving to be heard and to launch a new phase in my working life, the other is as strong desire to pull the blankets over my head and stay there. Where to go from here? … Well… Here I am. A first step.

When I was 16, I had completed all the Red Cross swimming lessons up to Grey, White would have been the last class before the Bronze Medallion and possibly life guarding and the potential to become a swimming teacher. I loved to swim, not competitively, just to swim for its own sake. I never took White, the final class, because I was afraid. Part of the requirements for White was to dive off the three meter platform. No way. I would go up there and summon all my courage, just to stand on the edge. All that, just to chicken out and let the group of impatient ones on the ladder pass me. I walked down that ladder more times than I jumped. I did jump off a few times when peer pressure overwhelmed my preservation instinct. I would run as fast as I could off the platform and jump feet first. But diving? No way. Besides, what does that have to do with swimming?

I feel that way now, that fluttery, adrenaline filled tremble, when I think about having more than 100 people read my blog. And yet, I refuse to go back to where I was before, no more backwards climb of shame for me. But I’m also not ready to dive head first into the bigger writing arenas. So, for now, I have decided to wait, just wait, on the platform between one state and another, and ignore the line up of opinions. I’ll dive when I’m ready.

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