My family and I went minigolfing today. I am terrible at it. Really, my three year old was doing a better job than me. It struck me that minigolfing is a fantastic spiritual training exercise. Most of the time I was clobbering the ball, only to have it bounce right back to me. It is a potent metaphor, too much force and you end up going nowhere.
It seems counterintuitive that less focus, less attention and less energy is more productive in achieving our goals. We are taught that if we don’t try really hard and put all of our energy towards our goals then we won’t be successful. It seems a bit lazy to take it easy and just let the Law of Attraction do the heavy lifting. But what if manifesting is just like minigolf?
There are three stages to the manifestation process according to Abraham (a group of non-physical beings channelled through a remarkable woman, Esther Hicks): first we ask for what we want, next we allow the Universe to create it, and finally we receive what we want. It is easy to know what you want, and usually it is easy to receive it, but the middle part, the allowing, can be hard. This is the stage where you live your life, often with little sign that anything has changed, and let go of the process of manifestation. You have to stay hopeful and trust that the Universe is lining everything up for you. I think this middle step is a challenge and is where most people get stuck. It requires faith. Faith is one of those messy concepts that fall apart when we examine them too roughly. Faith is fragile, like a champagne glass, and it doesn’t do well under the scientific hammer.
But minigolf! That is it! Minigolf is like allowing! We still need to play the game and continue living our lives. Obviously sitting on the side of the course will not help us in the game, or in our manifestation. Manifesting is not about taking no action. Action is important.
Too much force is not helpful and neither is facing the wrong direction. We have to be willing partners with the Universe, but we don’t have to do it all. Striving, worrying, impatience, these are all ways that we hit the ball too hard and wonder why we are no closer to the cup. Perhaps Newton was right on the money with the ‘every action has an equal and opposite reaction’ concept. The more we fret, the more we get to fret about. Bills pile up when we want abundance; lovers leave when we want a mate.
So it is really about finesse. We line things up, relax, and be gentle with ourselves. We keep moving forward because life keeps urging us on. In minigolf, there is no time for over thinking each shot, because there is a line up of players behind us who also want to have fun. We take shot after shot, we try and try again. Sometimes we get a hole in one, sometimes we hit the water, but we keep going and we keep getting closer to what we want.
Yes, I like this analogy! Here are the key steps to allowing manifestations and to minigolf:
- Relax. You’ve got his one, no need to force it.
- Play. Participate in the journey.
- Pay attention. Line things up and hope for the best, the miracle is in the details.
- Keep going. The universe loves consistent and persistent effort.
- Have fun. Approach it all as an adventure, say “I wonder what will happen next?”